Who wields more power to maintain a smooth relationship - males or females?

 

Relationship has to do with binding people in a particular common goal. In this context, my omphalos or focus will be on the kind of relationship with romantic or passionate attachment. People ask times without number the individual that holds greatest power to maintain a smooth, romantic and passionate relationship. Whilst some think males or men are the ones who should maintain a better relationship, others on the contrary think females or women should be at a better position to maintain a smooth relationship.

Marguerite Duras once said that "the thing that is between us is fascination and the fascination resides in our being alike. Whether you are a man or a woman, the fascination resides in finding out that we are alike" . What this insinuates is that, having the power or quality to command attractions, all individuals, whether males or females must see themselves alike so as to live harmoniously. Relationship is not one person's ideology. In as much as two or more entities are required to form a relationship, it gives a vivid explanation that it is not a "one man's" job.

Relationship they say, is like a rose flower, you water it, care for it and nurture it for it to keep growing and glooming. This therefore means that for every relationship to be a successful one, and keeps glooming like the rose flower, commitment is key to that task of maintaining a smooth relationship. Both parties must believe that they are in to it together and so what ever comes out of it belongs to both parties. Once the adventure remains an adventure for both the male and the female in the relationship, however way you pass to succeed in such adventure must be implemented. Most people in relationships think females must be the ones to always stay committed at all times in the relationship because of the common biblical statement that, woman must be submissive to her husband. That is stereotypical to say. It is however on the contrary because, both males and females have roles to play. 

Conel West once said that "you have to recognize that there cannot be relationship unless there is commitment, unless there is love, patience and persistence". I solemnly agree with this statement and believe both males and females wield powers to maintain a smooth relationship.

A smooth relationship requires trust. Merriam Webster defines trust as the reliance on the character, ability, strength or truth of someone or something. The primitive question one in a relationship must ask him/her self is how trustworthy is your partner to you and yourself to your partner? As I grow, I notice that trust is not an item that is sold at the market, however, it is an internal act that is developed and built upon. In maintaining an unmitigated or smooth relationship, it is the responsibility of both males and females to develop and build trust for each other. The activities of both parties should be surrounded by less suspicions. This gives you a healthy mind to figure out better ideologies to sustain your relationship.

A factor that cannot be left out when talking about maintaining a smooth relationship is effective communication. How often do you as individuals in relationships communicate and how effective is it? Lack of communication plays a subtle role in ruining relationships today. Involving in effective communication enables both parties to voice out ideas as to how to manage issues concerning their relationship lives. Through communication, you are able to know the likes and dislikes of each other therefore knowing what to do and what not to do. Who therefore wields the greatest power of maintaining a smooth relationship?

When you analyse closely the roles each individual in a relationship must play, you will agree with me that both males and females wield equal powers to maintaining a smooth relationship. Each person has a role to play and when such role is played effectively and efficiently, then there is no doubt that they is no going to be a good relationship.

Let us stay determined in our relationships and believe in ourselves. Nelson Mandela once said "difficulties break some men but make others. No axe is sharp enough to cut the soul of a sinner who keeps trying, one arms with the hope that he will rise and even in the end" never give up in trying.

Eric Dindobuo//StraightNewsGh